I invite you to do this exercise with us. Close your eyes, breathe and think: Are you satisfied with the type of friends or people that surround you?
Maybe you hadn’t asked yourself this question before or maybe you did. But, taking into account that the day of love and friendship is soon celebrated, it is a perfect moment to think about yours. what yes? It is that friendships are SO important in the life of any human being that it is necessary to be aware of whether we are on the right or wrong track.
Let’s start with a brief evaluation phase, in which you are going to reflect on who your current friends are, and the 2nd phase is simply to know those important aspects that will help you to always be able to generate new friendships or improve the relationships you already have.
Phase 1: Initial reflection (assessment)
What topics do you talk about?
Make a simple list of the topics you usually talk about with your friends: how many topics are really good, how many don’t add anything, how many are important, and how many are completely empty. This balance is important and revealing.
What do your current friends bring you?
When you’re with your friends, does the information or activities you share make you a better person or not ?
How do you feel after sharing?
When you return home after being with your friends, do you feel energized, happy, or hopeful? Or on the contrary, do you feel a little anxious, empty or sad?
Phase 2: How to cultivate better friendships
If we are going to cultivate better friendships, we first have to make some adjustments, otherwise it would be crazy because we would be doing the same thing over and over again.
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results ” – Albert Einstein.
So how do we make sure we attract better people into our lives? Here we share 5 tips.
1. Be that friend you want to have
As you read it. We cannot attract what we are not. For that, it is important to treat others as you would like to be treated, without expecting anything in return. Give love, be funny, offer a smile, help people, listen to them and support others when they need you (even if you feel like they don’t deserve it). You will see that little by little you will be receiving the same thing in your life.
2. Don’t be afraid to feel alone, at least for a while.
In the process of creating a better circle of friendship, you are probably going to lose “friends” that you thought were good or compatible with you. the best? Part of evolution is accepting that there will always be people in our life who will come and go, and nothing happens. In the meantime, it’s good to feel calm alone, in our own company, because let’s see, we’re the only ones who won’t leave our own side, right?
3. Lose shame with people
To have new friends you have to learn to socialize. Gradually get used to saying hello, asking questions, and genuinely wanting to meet other people. And if you are shy, all the more reason to make an effort to speak. It will be difficult at first but you will see that it will be 100% worth it.
4. Attend different events and places
New friendships are not going to fall from the sky or from the roof of your house. You have to go out looking for them or at least be in the middle. Try to attend events where interesting people go, or where topics you like are discussed: comedy shows, business conferences, festivals, book clubs, volunteer meetings or social causes, the gym in a different neighborhood or maybe you can meet the new bar on the corner, or sit in the park to watch the athletes ride their bikes. Just do something different in a different place.
5. Download Apps to make new friends
Although in the previous point we mentioned various options for socializing, we cannot forget that we are living in somewhat complex times with the situation of social distancing due to the Coronavirus pandemic. There will be times when you won’t be able to be around a lot of people or you won’t know how to join events so easily. Therefore, we recommend you to investigate and download Apps and web pages to socialize, join plans and make new friends. There are plenty of options out there, go for it!
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